Welcome to ProTip Tuesday, episode number 7!
I hope that everyone has had a great weekend and a even better Monday. There’s quite a few people out there that that really don’t like Monday’s but I do. I like the fact that I get to come to my gym and help people get fitter, healthier and stronger.
Having a strong mindset about what it is you do and what you’re trying to accomplish helps dramatically. Maybe that’s why I enjoy Monday’s where some people don’t seem to enjoy it. That and I think that I really enjoy having a schedule. Maybe I’ll talk about that in a future episode.
Anyway, today we’re going to talk about Mindset and mental strength.
First things first, what is mental strength?
- Mental strength is:
- When you didn’t want to do something but you did it anyway.
- When you were scared, but tried something new anyway.
- When you fell down, then got back up
- When you stayed positive in the face of a setback
- When you looked for strategies and solutions to the problem, rather than giving up
Whatever it is that you think or imagine is what your brain is going to think is real. It’s really powerful stuff! Whether you focus on succeeding or failing, you’re going to be right. So you might as well focus on succeeding.
And really, that’s the difference between a pro and an amateur. A pro can constantly visualize their performance in any game or event, seeing themselves complete their goal, win their game or perform impeccably.
You can do the same thing with whatever it is that you do. Whether it’s at work and you’re dominating that massive stack of TPS reports or if it’s seeing yourself succeed with your ProCoach habits or fitness goals, visualization and mindset will only help you reach that goal and dominate it.
Sure, there’s going to be times where you might fail, but remember one of the definitions of mental strength? “If you fall down, you get back up again.” If you do happen to fail, which you will at some point, it’ll be a great life lesson. Or maybe a viral video and you’ll become Instafamous.
It’s important to start really recognizing your thoughts. Are you going into something with a “I’m going to fail at this” attitude? Or are you taking the time to get out in front of the situation by seeing yourself succeed before even walking in the door?
Will those negative thoughts help you? Really? Will those positive thoughts support you? Probably.
Here are 3 simple steps to help you start off on the right track of building a more positive mindset.
Step one: Start with some self-compassion.
This one was really hard for me. I spent a lot of time beating myself up over things that I may not have had control over. Thoughts like, “You’re such and idiot.” Or “You dummy, you blew that one.” And most of all, “You’re not good enough for that.”
Any of these sound familiar to you?
If so, it might be time to start talking to yourself like a 5 year old. I’m being serious. Imagine that you’re taking to a child that just did something that you feel like you’ve messed up on in the past. Would you call that kid a dummy? Stupid? Or call them a failure? Probably not. If so you’re probably a terrible person and we can’t be friends. If you wouldn’t talk to a child like that, why would you talk to yourself like that? Has it worked to motivate you so far? Do you feel better after?
Try this instead. Try telling yourself, “It’s ok buddy! Everyone screws up. You’ve learned something and now get back up and try it again.” Or, “Dude! That was AWFUL! But that’s ok, man. Pick it up and try it again, I know you can do it.”
That probably feels better.
Step 2: Point out the positive stuff.
Remember as kids that saying, “I’m rubber, you’re glue. Everything you say bounces off me and sticks to you!” The same thing works for positive stuff as it does bad stuff.
Take the time to point out all the little things that you’re getting better at. Really focus and believe it when you say it. Things like, “Oh man, I’ve been so good about getting 5 servings of veggies a day!” Or, “these ten minute walks I’ve been doing on a daily basis at lunch have been making me feel so much more energized!” These little things build on each other and make for quite a long list of amazing stuff you’ve done today.
Step 3: Reframe what you just said.
This one takes some practice. This is where the “Yes, but…” comes into play. Something like, “Yes, I didn’t do a great job last night at the company holiday party, BUT it’s a new day and I get to start all over!” You’ve acknowledged it and you’ve moved on.
Another thing that you can practice that’s worked WONDERS for me is the “I get to” game. Instead of saying, “I have to (insert something awful here)” I’ll say something like, “I GET to go do something that I don’t particularly enjoy, but I’ll find a way to enjoy it!”
And the last thing my coach taught me is to stop SHOULDING on myself. Yes, you heard that right. Stop SHOULDING on myself. You know how it goes, “I should do this, I should do that.” Instead it’s, “I get to do this” and “I’m doing this thing right now.” This has made a HUGE impact on my day.
I’ll be sending out an email with the transcript of this, so if you want these steps to write down on your own to have somewhere to refer to, email me a the email in the description and I’ll make sure that you get a copy.
Start practicing this today and you’ll be amazing at how a case of the Monday’s turns into I GET to ROCK my Monday’s.
Have a great week!
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